As mentioned earlier, it seems that my Mr. Right had not appear yet, including those with embedded potentials. These days, I've been experiencing unsatisfactory about my life, and somehow it triggers something that allow me to see clearer what I want and seek for in life. Of course, there are so many aspects of life, love is just one of them, yet a big one to me. So let me talk about the qualities that I seek for from my Mr. Right. People said, there is always someone for somebody. Wander where my one is...
1. Intelligent - I ADORE those people with professional attitude and with a lot of knowledge and life experience. Not a book worm, but someone that is able to open my horizon, help me to see a more holistic picture of world and live balance life. It's good to be successful in life, but I don't need one that is super successful, because it is a trend that those super successful people are often too busy for their family. I want someone that I can learn from, and explore new possibilities in life with. Also, I cannot stand those that behave ignorant or unreasonable, so it is very important for me to be able to have good communication and not to always trying to tolerate nonsense too much. And I believe that I have a fair amount of tolerance, just ask Angie.
2. Confident - A confident person attracts to me as they shine in the crowd to be unique. And this does not consist of arrogant. A real confident person, will be able to maintain his confidence in a respectful manner, and not by looking down at another or boasting. To be honest, I am not a very confident person, but I am working toward it.
3. Mature - I cannot stand immature behaviors and thinking. Personally, I grow up in a rigid family, and should be well aware of the consequence of doing things, and also proper manners and behaviors in life. I like those people that are young at heart, I myself feel like one most of the time. But young at heart doesn't means to do reckless things and to hurt another for my own pleasure. Maturity to me also means to be able to keep calm when incidents hit us in life. I am a emotional person, and I usually go quite extreme to either end, except the emotion of anger, I still don't know how to express it. So I definitely need someone to hold me before I hurt myself with extreme emotion. I deem myself to be a reasonable person, so if one try to talk to me and try to persuade me with logical thinking, I may not able to accept it at that instance, but I will really start to ease my tension and try to cool down. I think this is also for the better for my children later on, so that they can have a balanced life.
4. Genuinely good - I am a person that love peace at mind. Tho sometimes I enjoy excitement, but I prefer constant simplicity of happiness than taking the boat ride in emotion. I love live and living beings, not all to be honest. I am a vegetarian, because I don't want for life to be taken away from another animal for my own survival or pleasure. And I LOVE veggies, so I am quite happy with my diet. So I hope the person that I am with can understand my mentality with food. I don't really know how to describe a good person, but it is someone that is kind, friendly, and respect other people. I believe, with respect, the world can reach harmony... maybe.
5. Well groomed - Well groomed doesn't mean a perfect body or brandy clothing from head to toe. It means know how to maintain a good personal hygiene. It also means to know what kind of cloth suits the body he has. I don't usually buy clothes, because I always get second handed clothes from my cousins. Some suit me, some don't. I can't say that I know exactly what looks good on me, but I really doesn't like seeing someone with clothes that makes me speechless.
6. Caring - I NEED a man that cares about me. Without caring, the above mentioned points are mere bull shit. Or should I say, that quality man is for someone lucky out there. Those that care about you will not want to hurt you, will protect you reasonably, will trust in you, will want to make you happy, and will also take care of themselves because they know how important they are in your life. One that cares about you will want to make you happy, through ways or strategy to put a smile onto your face. One that cares about you will care about your body and mind. He will be there when you need them, in sickness and sadness, either personally, or at least via other media and technology. One that cares about you will care about your life and environment, and want to participate in your life. He will want to meet your other friends and family so to know you better. And also introduce his so that you can know him better. And also make you be so proud of him because he is there in your important events in life. One that cares about you will contact you at a regular basis, so that you two can know recent updates in each others life, and also knowing that you will be worried about him after a long absence of contact. One that cares about you will not cheat on you and do you harm. He will know quite well at least the things not to do, because you will be sad, disappointed and even cry. One that cares about you will have you on his mind, constantly. Not saying to neglect the other things in life, but in a daily basis, just thought of you without conscious about it. One that cares about you will correct you when you are wrong in a harmony manner, and praise you when you are right, a smile and a few words are enough. One that cares about you and want to have a future with you will make regular communication with you, and work with your towards a better life together.
Notice that I had not use "me" as the subject here. Although this is what I deem as some behaviors that shows caring. I dare not to think too much of it, because it just simply shows how much I don't have.
I don't know if I am asking too much in life... or too little? But as for right now, a person with the above characteristics, should be very close to what I deemed is my Mr. Right.
[Mr. Right, where art thou? or... when will you become my Mr. Right?]
